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What does it mean that Leah was 'hated' despite being loved by Yaakov? The shiur redefines hatred (sina) not as animosity but as having separate agendas - two people can love yet remain fundamentally divided in priorities. Yaakov's seven years of labor for Rochel exemplifies making your spouse your agenda rather than maintaining parallel lives.
Rabbi Zweig begins by examining a puzzling verse: the Torah (תורה) states that Leah was 'hated' yet Yaakov loved her, and that Yaakov worked seven years for Rochel and 'it seemed like a few days.' He challenges our understanding of both love and hatred in Torah relationships. The rabbi explains that Yaakov's willingness to work seven years for Rochel, contrary to the custom where the bride's family pays a dowry, was a deliberate choice to communicate his devotion. By giving up what was most his - his labor and effort - Yaakov was declaring that Rochel was his agenda. This wasn't passive waiting but active relationship-building, where each day of work strengthened their bond and demonstrated her value to him.
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Parshas Vayeitzei
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