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Why did Pharaoh keep fighting God when he was clearly losing? The conflict was fundamentally about control, not freedom - Pharaoh felt his very existence threatened when someone tried to control him. The solution is developing self-discipline rather than controlling others, which transforms how we approach chinuch, marriage, and family dynamics.
This shiur addresses fundamental questions about the Exodus story that often trouble adult learners: Why did Pharaoh continue fighting God when he clearly knew he was losing? Why didn't Moshe wait until the Jews were safely out before removing each plague? The answer lies in understanding that the entire conflict was about control, not freedom or even the release of the Jewish people. Through analysis of a Midrash comparing Pharaoh to a donkey who collected taxes from a king, the shiur reveals that Pharaoh's resistance wasn't irrational - it was a desperate fight to maintain control over his own existence. When someone tries to control us, we feel our very being is threatened, as we become mere tools rather than independent humans. This explains Adam's sin as well - not a desire for the forbidden fruit, but a rejection of being controlled. The Midrash's imagery of the fox eating the donkey's heart connects to the Torah (תורה)'s repeated emphasis on Pharaoh's hardened heart, showing that the heart is the seat of chemdah (coveting) - the desire to control others. The shiur explains that the tenth commandment, lo sachmod (do not covet), is actually the most severe because it represents the ultimate usurpation of God - the desire to control everything and everyone. The solution presented is profound: instead of fighting for control over others, we must develop self-control. The only person we can truly control is ourselves, and paradoxically, those who lack self-discipline are the ones who most desperately try to control others. This principle transforms our understanding of chinuch (education) and marriage. When we pressure others through raised voices or threats, we are doing the action ourselves rather than motivating them to act. The Rambam (רמב"ם)'s understanding of lighting Shabbos (שבת) candles illustrates healthy partnership - the husband's calm request allows the wife to participate in the mitzvah (מצוה) rather than being controlled. Moshe and Aharon were specifically commanded to lead with patience and calm because the goal was not to drag the Jews out of Egypt, but to motivate them to want to leave. This explains why 80% of the Jews died in the plague of darkness - God wanted willing participants, not forced compliance. The practical applications are revolutionary: most family conflicts are not about the ostensible issues but about control. Teenagers rebel not because of the actual requests but because they feel their autonomy threatened. Parents become overly invested in children's grades because when we control our children's homework, we are actually doing it ourselves. The path forward requires developing strong self-discipline and self-control, which paradoxically reduces our need to control others and makes us less threatened when others attempt to control us.
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