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Why do children resent parents and nations turn on their benefactors? The shiur explores how favors can backfire: receiving help highlights inadequacy. Pharaoh's transformation from defender to persecutor of Jews illustrates this dynamic. Parents must empower children with skills and self-sufficiency, not just provide for them, to avoid breeding resentment.
Rabbi Zweig examines a fundamental paradox in human relationships: those who receive the most help often harbor the greatest resentment toward their benefactors. He frames this with the observation that children frequently spend years in therapy blaming parents, and countries that receive the most aid develop the strongest animosity toward their donors. The question is: where does this anti-gratitude come from? The shiur begins with two textual puzzles from Parshas Shemos. First, the Midrash's interpretation of "Ish Mitzri hitzilani" (an Egyptian man saved us) when Moshe rescued Yisro's daughters. Rather than referring to Moshe disguised as an Egyptian (Rashi (רש"י)'s view), the Midrash says the daughters were thanking the Egyptian Moshe killed in Egypt—because killing him forced Moshe to flee to Midian, where he could save them. This seems absurd: how can you thank someone for an action that only tangentially led to your rescue?
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Shemos 1:8-22, 2:16-20
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