Rabbi Zweig explores the Torah (תורה)'s understanding of marriage as an eternal merger creating oneness between soulmates, contrasting this with secular society's view of marriage as mere partnership.
Rabbi Zweig begins by discussing contemporary debates about marriage definition and notes that the Talmud (תלמוד) recorded 2000 years ago that secular society had not yet sanctioned same-sex marriage. He then explores three fundamental questions about marriage from Torah (תורה) sources: why Jacob cried upon first meeting Rachel when shown they wouldn't be buried together, why the Talmud begins marriage laws with dissolution (yibum/levirate marriage), and why marriage is learned from Abraham purchasing Sarah's burial plot. The core thesis emerges that Torah views marriage not as partnership but as eternal oneness. Partnership maintains two separate entities using each other for mutual benefit, where each asks 'what's in it for me?' In contrast, marriage creates a merged identity where both serve the marriage entity, asking 'how can I best serve us?' This oneness requires understanding marriage as eternal - not 'till death do us part' but continuing beyond death, evidenced by burial together and the levirate marriage obligation. The speaker explains that when Abraham bought the burial plot, the Torah connected marriage to eternal burial togetherness, establishing that true marriage transcends death. Jacob's tears upon learning he wouldn't be buried with Rachel indicated their relationship wouldn't achieve perfect oneness. The Talmud's organization beginning with yibum emphasizes marriage's eternal nature - even after death, the relationship must be perpetuated through a brother marrying the widow if there were no children. Rabbi Zweig explains that the Talmud's teaching about sins being forgiven upon marriage (derived from Esau's third marriage to Mahalath) occurs because marriage to one's soulmate creates such transformation that one becomes a completely new person. This only applies to marriages achieving true oneness, not mere partnerships. Rashi (רש"י)'s interpretation that 'becoming one flesh' means having children is crucial - the child represents an indivisible entity containing both parents, making oneness tangible. The shiur addresses practical questions about childless marriages, adoption, remarriage after spousal death, and polygamy, emphasizing that while partnerships can be multiple, there is only one possible soulmate merger. Rabbi Zweig concludes that understanding marriage's true potential for transformation and eternal connection is essential for achieving the elevated relationship the Torah envisions.
An introduction to the first chapter of Ramchal's Derech HaShem, covering six fundamental principles about God's nature and existence, including the difference between emunah (internalization) and yedi'ah (knowledge).
An introductory class to studying the Ramchal's Derech Hashem, covering the author's life, his major works (Mesilat Yesharim, Derech Hashem, Da'at Tevunot), and the philosophical foundations that will guide the series.
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