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Why does the Gemara (גמרא) in Kesubos say whitening your teeth (smiling) is better than giving milk? The shiur explains that a king's role is not just to do for others but to become focused on empowering them. Marriage, leadership, and smiling all require a transformation in perspective from self-focus to other-focus—becoming "tov" (godlike) by prioritizing others' feelings even when it conflicts with your own.
Rabbi Zweig opens with the blessing to Yehuda in Parshas Vayechi describing abundant wine and milk, which the Gemara (גמרא) in Kesubos reinterprets: "It is better to whiten the teeth of somebody (smile at them) than to give him a glass of milk." For years, Rabbi Zweig understood this to mean that a smile has greater impact than material gifts—a principle already known from the laws of charity where giving a good word earns eleven blessings versus six for giving money. But this week he realized that interpretation doesn't explain why this teaching appears specifically in Yehuda's blessing, since the message would apply universally to everyone. The key insight emerges from understanding what it means to be a king—the role of the tribe of Yehuda. The Gemara teaches that three people have their sins forgiven: a convert, one who ascends to greatness (leadership), and one who gets married. Rabbi Zweig asks: what is the merit of merely getting married that warrants forgiveness? He previously thought it meant taking responsibility for a family, but that can't be right—God would need to see how you fulfill that responsibility over twenty years before forgiving sins.
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