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Why does Avos 4:18 need to teach obvious psychological truths like not appeasing angry people or comforting mourners prematurely? The shiur develops a yesod from the Rambam (רמב"ם) that Jewish ethics requires respecting others' emotional space, not just avoiding physical harm. This transforms parenting and relationships from 'don't hurt others' to 'only act when it benefits them.'
Rabbi Zweig analyzes Mishna 4:18 in Pirkei Avos from Rab Shimson ben Elazar, which teaches four related principles: don't try to appease someone when they're angry, don't comfort a mourner before burial, don't dissuade someone from making vows when upset, and don't look at someone who has been embarrassed. The central question is why we need scriptural sources and rabbinic teaching for such seemingly obvious psychological truths. The shiur examines three different interpretations of why we shouldn't appease angry people. Rabbeinu Yonah says it makes them angrier, Rashi (רש"י) says it doesn't help, while Maimonides uniquely places this teaching in his laws for Torah (תורה) scholars rather than general human conduct. This raises a fundamental question: why is respecting others' space specifically a scholarly obligation rather than basic human decency?
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