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How can parents prove their rules aren't about control when children resist authority? The shiur argues that accepting abuse without defensive reactions demonstrates that parental actions serve the child's benefit, not the parent's ego. Just as Hashem (ה׳) continues providing abilities even when we use them to sin against Him, parents must maintain support even when children make poor choices.
Rabbi Zweig continues his series on dealing with children who feel controlled by addressing a crucial question: what do you do when explaining that rules are 'for their own good' doesn't work? He argues that the real test of whether we're controlling comes when children abuse us - if we react defensively, it proves our actions are about us, not them. Using the example from Koheles 4:15, Rabbi Zweig explains that Hashem (ה׳) created two forces within humans: the desire for pleasure and the resistance to being controlled. The latter is so strong that people will become self-destructive rather than submit to control. He cites the Talmudic discussion between Gavi Ben Sisa and a non-believer about resurrection, arguing that death isn't God's revenge but rather a reconnection to enable eternal life.
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Why would prosperous people before the flood think God wouldn't punish them? The shiur develops a yesod that they believed God created humans for His own glory and therefore needed impressive giants for His reputation. God deliberately made humans weak and dependent to demonstrate that creation is entirely for our benefit, not His - a principle that transforms how we approach parenting and all relationships.
