Na'aseh V'Nishma: Love, Trust and Building the Mishkan

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This shiur examines three interconnected questions from Parshas Terumah: the connection between "Na'aseh V'Nishma" and building the Mishkan, why the Torah (תורה) uses the language "v'yikchu li" (take for me) rather than "v'yitnu" (give), and the meaning of a Midrash contrasting Jewish love for God with idolatrous hatred. The analysis begins with a Gemara (גמרא) in Bava Kamma stating that immediately after the Jewish people declared "Na'aseh V'Nishma" at Sinai, God commanded the building of the Mishkan. The core insight revolves around understanding "temimus" (naivety/wholeness) in relationships. Using Rashi (רש"י)'s explanation, the shiur demonstrates that when someone truly loves another person, they trust completely that whatever their beloved asks of them will be for their benefit. This trust eliminates the need to analyze or question every request. The Hebrew word "tamam" encompasses both innocence and completeness - in a trusting relationship, one can give themselves completely without withholding anything. The contrast is illustrated through the Midrash about Rabbi Akiva and the Roman emperor Titus Rufus. When asked why God hates Esau, Rabbi Akiva tells of a dream where he named two dogs Rufus and Rufina after the emperor and his wife. The emperor's anger at this comparison reveals the essential point: both dogs and idolaters measure relationships solely by what they receive. Dogs say "hav, hav" (give me, give me), representing relationships based on personal benefit rather than genuine love. Idolatry represents the ultimate self-interested relationship with the divine - worshipping the sun, sea, or trees only because of what one receives from them. This explains "v'Esav sanei" - not hatred in the sense of animosity, but complete disinterest in the other person, focusing only on oneself. The idolater's relationship with God is contractual and conditional. This analysis explains the unusual language "v'yikchu li terumah." In a genuine love relationship, giving becomes receiving because the two parties have merged into one. When the Jewish people demonstrated through "Na'aseh V'Nishma" that they understood God's love for them, God could then say "take for me" - meaning that building the Mishkan would ultimately benefit them. God's presence among them through the Mishkan would enhance their lives, not burden them. The shiur traces this concept through the historical development of the Sadducees, who rejected the idea of serving God without explicit reward. Their founder Tzadok heard his teacher Antigonus of Socho say that one should serve God not for reward, and stormed out to create a movement based on contractual religious obligations rather than trust. The practical applications extend to all relationships, particularly marriage and parenting. Modern emphasis on "marriage partners" and prenuptial agreements reflects a shift from love-based relationships to contractual partnerships. While partnerships may be appropriate for second marriages or business relationships, first marriages should be based on complete trust and merger of interests. Similarly, parent-child relationships suffer when parents focus on their own needs (like pride in children's accomplishments) rather than genuinely caring for the child's welfare. The shiur concludes that building genuine loving relationships requires enormous effort to focus on the other person's needs rather than one's own. Only when each person genuinely cares for the other's welfare can there be the security and completeness that characterizes true love, whether between spouses, parents and children, or between humans and God.