Avraham's Money and the True Meaning of Divine Gifts

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This shiur addresses several perplexing questions about money, divine promises, and self-respect in the Torah (תורה). The primary focus is understanding why Avraham Avinu refused even a shoelace from Melech Sodom, yet earlier accepted substantial gifts from Pharaoh when he went down to Egypt with Sarah. The answer lies in understanding the difference between money as mere wealth versus money as a source of dignity and respect. The shiur introduces a fundamental principle: tzadikim only ask for presents (matanos) from God, not payment of debts. Even when they are entitled to something, they request it as a gift because they want it given out of love, not obligation. This reflects a deeper truth about the Jewish people's relationship with the Almighty - we don't want God to fulfill His promises merely because He owes us something, but because He loves us and wants to give to us. This principle explains the concept of "shelo yigrom chet" - when divine promises are not fulfilled due to sin. The Rambam (רמב"ם) distinguishes between prophecies given to prophets for themselves versus for others, but the shiur offers a different approach: when we sin and become unworthy, we ourselves tell God "we don't want it" if it's only being given out of obligation rather than love. We prefer to receive nothing rather than receive something we don't truly deserve. Regarding the borrowing from the Egyptians, the shiur explains this wasn't deceptive but was meant to restore Jewish self-respect. The Jews intended to return after three days, give back what they borrowed, and then as friends - not as slaves - negotiate proper payment for 400 years of labor. The money had to come through borrowing to create a relationship of respect and friendship, not merely as payment of wages owed to slaves. Avraham established this precedent (ma'aseh avot siman l'banim) when he took money from Pharaoh. That money wasn't taken for its monetary value but for the kavod (honor) it represented - Pharaoh was treating him as an aristocrat worthy of respect. From Melech Sodom, however, Avraham would only have received money as payment for services rendered, which he refused because God had promised to make him wealthy. The entire Egyptian episode was designed to give the Jewish people both wealth and self-respect. The miraculous element was that former slaves were treated with such honor and friendship by their former masters. This established the proper relationship between the Jewish people and God - one based on love and presents rather than obligations and debts, paralleling a healthy marriage where spouses do things for each other out of love rather than keeping score of obligations.