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Why did Yaakov's seven years of labor for Rochel feel like 'a few days' when waiting typically makes time drag? The time passed quickly because Yaakov wasn't merely waiting but actively building Rochel's self-worth, demonstrating her value to create the foundation for their relationship. This principle - that making others feel valued is what creates genuine love - applies equally to marriage and parenting today.
Rabbi Zweig begins by addressing two puzzling aspects of Yaakov's courtship of Rochel: why did seven years feel like 'a few days' when typically waiting for something anticipated makes time feel longer, and why did Yaakov volunteer to work seven years when Lavan never requested it? The Rabbi explains that Yaakov came to Lavan with empty hands after being robbed, as Rashi (רש"י) notes. The seven years of labor was not for Lavan's benefit but for Rochel's - to demonstrate how much he valued her and to build her self-esteem. The core insight is that the foundation of any relationship, especially marriage, is making the other person feel valued. When people feel valued by others, they begin to feel good about themselves. Yaakov's seven years wasn't empty waiting time but active relationship-building, where each day he reinforced Rochel's sense of worth. This explains why the time passed quickly - he was accomplishing something meaningful rather than merely waiting.
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