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Why does parenting inevitably involve being 'cursed and stoned' by one's children? The shiur reveals that resistance is built into Hashem (ה׳)'s design - as parents push children toward independence through weaning, training, and withdrawing support, children naturally feel betrayed. True parental love means accepting this abuse silently, proving the goal is the child's independence, not the parent's ego.
Rabbi Zweig begins with Moshe Rabbeinu's powerful complaint to Hashem (ה׳) in Parshas Beha'aloscha about the burden of leading the Jewish people. When Moshe asks 'Did I conceive this nation? Did I give birth to them?' he's questioning why he must carry them like a nursing mother when he knows they will stone and curse him. Rashi (רש"י) explains that Hashem warned Moshe in Parshas Va'era that leadership means being prepared for the people to stone and curse their leaders. The deeper insight emerges when Rabbi Zweig examines what would make this burden acceptable - if Moshe were actually their parent. This reveals a fundamental truth about parenting: it inherently involves being cursed and stoned by one's children. The shiur explores why this seemingly harsh reality is actually part of Hashem's divine design.
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Parshas Beha'aloscha 11:11-12
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