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Why does the Mishna begin Seder Nashim with Yevamos rather than Kiddushin? Marriage creates an eternal fusion of souls, not a temporary partnership that ends at death. This explains why spouses are buried together and why yibum works with the original kiddushin - the bond transcends physical existence and reshapes how we should evaluate potential marriage partners.
This shiur examines the profound nature of marriage as presented in Parshas Chayei Sarah, establishing that marriage is not merely a partnership but an eternal fusion of two souls. The discussion begins with the Gemara (גמרא)'s derivation of marriage laws from Ephron's sale of the burial plot to Avrohom, using the principle of 'kicha, kicha' to connect 'ki yikach ish isha' with monetary acquisition. However, the deeper message emerges from understanding why spouses are buried together - unlike secular marriages that end 'till death do us part,' Jewish marriage creates an eternal bond where two people become one forever. The speaker references Tosafos (תוספות) Yeshanim's question about the seemingly illogical order of Seder Nashim in the Mishna, which begins with Yevamos rather than Kiddushin. The answer lies in understanding that Yevamos teaches the fundamental principle that marriage is eternal - when a brother dies, the surviving brother doesn't marry the deceased's wife but rather steps into his shoes, as Rashi (רש"י) explains in Kiddushin that the kesef of the original Kiddushin suffices. The shiur explores the phrase 'meHashem yatza hadavar' regarding Rivka's match with Yitzchok, connecting it to Har Moriah where Adam was created and where the Akeidah took place. This teaches that marriage is an act of divine recreation - not acquisition of a partner but the creation of a new unified being. The Mizbeach, located where man was originally formed, gives its name to the entire mountain (Har Hashem (ה׳) Yira), symbolizing how the place of creation becomes central to everything around it. When marriages break, the Mizbeach itself cries ('Mizbeach yored demaos'), demonstrating the cosmic significance of this union. The practical implications are profound: since marriage is eternal, one must focus on character qualities that matter forever rather than temporary attractions. The speaker critiques the modern tendency to focus on superficial qualities like appearance or career achievements rather than a woman's natural wisdom (binah) and ability to understand and develop both husband and children. He emphasizes that a woman's true chochmah lies not in academic degrees but in her intuitive understanding of people and her ability to empower and communicate effectively. The shiur concludes with an analysis of the angels' seemingly rude response to Avrohom's hospitality ('kein ta'aseh kasher dibarta'), explaining that they were actually giving him mussar about establishing proper house rules for Yishmael, teaching that correction should come through structure rather than direct confrontation.
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