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Why does the Gemara (גמרא) require someone who sees a sotah to become a nazir and abstain from wine? The answer reveals that life events are personal messages—what happens to us reveals our hidden vulnerabilities. This leads to a sharp mussar discussion: when a visitor was ignored in the yeshiva, it reflected poorly not just on individuals but on all Bnei Torah (תורה) and on Torah itself, violating the essence of Avrohom Avinu's chesed (חסד).
Rabbi Zweig opens with a Gemara (גמרא) that states that one who sees a sotah (a woman accused of adultery) being subjected to her public ordeal must make himself a nazir and refrain from drinking wine, because wine leads to arayos (sexual immorality). The obvious question is: if a person has a propensity for arayos, he should abstain from wine regardless of whether he sees a sotah; and if he does not have such a propensity, why should seeing a sotah obligate him to abstain? The answer, Rabbi Zweig explains, is that a person typically does not know his own inner inclinations and weaknesses. Life events that happen to a person are not random—they are messages tailored specifically for him. If this individual happened to be present when a sotah was being brought for her ordeal (he could have been elsewhere, sick, or occupied with business), that itself is a message that he is susceptible to the pitfalls associated with wine and immorality. Thus, the Gemara is teaching that whatever happens in our lives is a personal message, revealing aspects of ourselves we might not otherwise recognize.
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Gemara on sotah and nazir; principles of chesed and chilul Hashem
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