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Why does tipping create such discomfort, and why do we tip for some services but not others? The shiur uses the Torah (תורה)'s requirement to return to the same lodging (lo meshane achsanai shelo) to show that personal service involves dignified people demeaning themselves for our benefit. Tipping restores their dignity while preventing us from developing a god-complex about being served.
This shiur provides a unique Torah (תורה) perspective on the American custom of tipping, examining both the psychological discomfort people feel about tipping and its deeper spiritual significance. Rabbi Zweig begins by noting how tipping creates anxiety for many people - wondering about appropriate amounts and when tips are expected versus not expected (restaurants vs. dry cleaners, for example). The key Torah source comes from Parshas Lech Lecha, where the Gemara (גמרא) derives from Avrohom's travel patterns that one is obligated not to change accommodations (lo meshane achsanai shelo) - if you stayed somewhere once, you should return there rather than switching to a different establishment. This seems counterintuitive, as normally people would want to try new places and experiences.
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