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Why do we owe parents gratitude when they had children for their own fulfillment, not our benefit? The shiur establishes that we owe hakaras hatov to anyone who benefits us regardless of their motives, since nothing is owed to us in the first place. This yesod explains why Og earned merit despite evil intentions and why gratitude creates ongoing obligation rather than closing accounts.
Rabbi Zweig begins by addressing a psychological question that often troubles people: why do we owe our parents anything when they had children primarily for their own reasons - companionship, legacy, avoiding mortality? He notes that parents don't have children for the sake of the unborn child, but rather for their own fulfillment and sense of immortality, as the Talmud (תלמוד) says one without children is like being dead. The question becomes more complex through the story from Parshas Lech Lecha, where Og informs Avrohom that his nephew Lot has been captured by four kings who conquered Sodom and the surrounding cities. Og's motive was entirely selfish - he hoped Avrohom would be killed trying to rescue Lot, making Sarah available to him. Despite these evil intentions, the Talmud teaches that 400 years later, when the Jewish people were about to conquer the land of Bashan ruled by Og, God had to specifically tell Moshe not to fear Og's merit. This merit came from the fact that he had given Avrohom the information he needed to save Lot.
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