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When is pressure in Torah (תורה) observance legitimate versus coercive? Building on the Baal HaTurim's reading of na'aseh v'nishma as 'we will do and it will be heard/resonate,' the shiur establishes that mitzvos align with our essential nature. The Rambam (רמב"ם)'s principle of kofin oto applies only when someone truly wants to do right but lacks motivation - making educational approaches that reveal mitzvos' inherent value crucial before any pressure.
This shiur addresses a fundamental question about motivation versus coercion in Torah (תורה) observance, sparked by someone asking about kafah aleihem har k'gigis in relation to pressuring children in religious observance. Rabbi Zweig establishes a crucial principle: one may only pressure someone who genuinely wants to do the right thing deep down but lacks the strength or motivation to follow through. The shiur begins with an analysis of na'aseh v'nishma, citing the Baal HaTurim who notes that v'nishma appears three times in the Torah with the same meaning - 'it will be heard' rather than 'we will hear.' This grammatical insight reveals that na'aseh v'nishma means 'we will do and it will be heard/resonate' - indicating that through doing mitzvos, we discover they resonate with our essential nature. Rabbi Zweig explains that malachim embody this principle completely - there is no separation between what they do and who they are. When Klal Yisrael said na'aseh v'nishma, they reached this level temporarily, understanding that mitzvos are not external impositions but expressions of their true essence. The Gemara (גמרא) about 600,000 angels giving two crowns each, and later 1.2 million angels removing them after the Golden Calf, illustrates this concept. Initially, the doing and understanding were unified (one angel, two crowns), but after the sin, they became separated (twice as many angels needed). The Rambam (רמב"ם)'s principle of kofin oto ad she'yomar rotzeh ani (we force him until he says 'I want to') applies only because deep down the person truly wants to do the right thing. This principle applies to divorce proceedings and extends to all areas of Jewish law. Rabbi Zweig emphasizes that true education must help people understand why mitzvos are valuable and empowering, not merely how to perform them. The current educational system often fails because it teaches compliance without conveying the inherent value and life-giving nature of Torah study and mitzvah (מצוה) observance. Parents and educators must first motivate and educate, helping children understand that mitzvos correspond to the 248 limbs and 365 sinews of the human body - they are designed for our essential nature. Only after someone has bought into this understanding can any form of pressure be appropriate, and even then, it's a kindness to help them overcome laziness in doing what they truly want to do. The shiur concludes with practical applications for parenting and self-motivation, emphasizing that even external motivators like money are acceptable because the inherent value of mitzvos will eventually supersede these external motivations (shelo lishma ba lishma). The key is understanding that human beings were created specifically to benefit from the 613 mitzvos - we are not external to the system but designed for it.
Parshas Yisro - kafah aleihem har k'gigis
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