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Why do children resent their parents, and how can parents avoid devastation when children don't turn out as hoped? The shiur explains that children's anger stems from being "cast out" from security into independence. Parents must see themselves as God's messengers (shlichim), not principals—a perspective that prevents personal devastation when facing children's rejection or failure, just as Moshe was commanded to lead calmly by being positioned as a messenger rather than a leader.
Rabbi Zweig addresses one of parenting's most devastating challenges: how to cope when a child doesn't turn out as hoped. The shiur finds both the problem and solution in Parshas Vaeira's cryptic command to Moshe and Aharon: "Vayetzavtem es Bnei Yisrael" (Shemos 6:13). Rashi (רש"י) interprets this verse to mean Moshe and Aharon were commanded to lead the Jewish people calmly, with patience and tolerance (savlanus). In Parshas Balak, Rashi brings this same verse when Moshe complains about the people's constant rebellion, asking rhetorically if he conceived and birthed them that he should carry them like a nursing mother. Rashi explains the command included being prepared for cursing and stoning by the people. This raises a profound question: where in the text does it say anything about patience, abuse, or acting like a mother?
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Shemos 6:13 (Parshas Vaeira)
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