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Why does the Talmud (תלמוד) say that getting married forgives a person's sins? Marriage doesn't automatically grant forgiveness—it creates an opportunity to shift from self-absorption to being outer-directed, focused on someone else's needs. The shiur explains that Esav's marriage to Basmat (called Machlat, meaning "forgiveness") became worse rather than better because he kept his first two rebellious wives, creating an atmosphere where everyone demanded adjustment rather than offering it.
The shiur opens with the question of why the Torah (תורה) gives two different names for Esav's wife: Basmat in Parshas Vayishlach and Machlat in Parshas Toldos. The Talmud (תלמוד) explains they are the same person, and the name Machlat (from the root "mechilah," forgiveness) teaches that a person who gets married is forgiven for all their sins. This is the basis for the halacha (הלכה) that bride and groom fast on their wedding day and recite Vidui, making their wedding day like Yom Kippur. Rabbi Zweig raises several difficulties: Why is the forgiveness associated with the wife's name rather than attributed directly to God? How do we know that the woman is also forgiven? What is the common thread between the three people the Talmud says are forgiven: converts, those who assume leadership positions, and those who get married? And why did Esav's third marriage make him worse rather than better?
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Vayishlach - Esav's marriage to Basmat/Machlat
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