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Why does the father at a bar mitzvah (מצוה) declare "I am no longer responsible for my child's sins," when the Torah (תורה)'s eagle metaphor teaches that the parent should absorb the blow instead of the child? The shiur develops a crucial distinction: a parent must shield a child from third-party attacks but must never insulate a child from the consequences of his own immoral choices, as doing so teaches that immoral behavior has no consequences.
Rabbi Zweig addresses a fundamental tension in Jewish parenting that appears to contradict the Torah (תורה)'s own teaching. Parshas Yisro opens with the preamble to the Ten Commandments, in which Hashem (ה׳) declares, "I carried you on the wings of eagles" (Shemos 19:4). Rashi (רש"י) explains that the eagle is unique among birds: while all other birds carry their young beneath them (to protect against predatory birds swooping from above), the eagle fears only man's arrow and therefore carries its fledglings on top of its wings, reasoning "better the arrow should pierce me than my child." This, Rashi says, is how Hashem took us out of Egypt—the Divine Presence positioned itself between the Jewish camp and the Egyptians, absorbing the stones and arrows meant for the Jews. The Torah is teaching us a fundamental principle of parenting: the parent should absorb the blow rather than the child. Yet Jewish law seems to contradict this principle. At a bar mitzvah (מצוה), the father stands in synagogue and makes a public declaration: "Baruch she'petarani mei'onsho shel zeh"—Blessed is the One who has freed me from the punishment of this one. The father is essentially saying, "God, from now on, punish my child directly; I am no longer responsible for his sins." Until the age of bar mitzvah, the parent is held accountable for the child's sins; from age thirteen onward, the child bears his own responsibility. This appears to be the exact opposite of the eagle principle—here the parent is stepping aside and saying "let the child take the consequences," not "let me absorb them."
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