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Why do we instinctively rationalize others' misfortunes to distance ourselves from their fate? The law of nazir teaches that witnessing a sotah's downfall should prompt self-reflection, not self-distinction. True wisdom means internalizing life's lessons from others' experiences rather than dismissing them as irrelevant to our situation.
Rabbi Zweig begins by examining a fundamental human psychological pattern: when we witness tragedy or misfortune befalling others, our natural instinct is to distinguish ourselves from the victim to avoid confronting our own mortality. We rationalize that the person who died in a car accident wasn't wearing a seatbelt, or that someone who had a heart attack had family history or stress we don't have. This mental process, while psychologically protective, prevents us from learning important life lessons. The Rabbi contrasts this common response with the wisdom of Balak from the Torah (תורה). While Balak was evil, he demonstrated wisdom in one crucial aspect: when he saw what happened to his neighbors (Sichon and Og), he didn't dismiss it as irrelevant to his situation. Instead, he recognized that 'if it happened to them, it could happen to me.' Unlike the other nations who rationalized away the destruction of Egypt by focusing on distinctions (Egypt enslaved the Jews, we didn't), Balak internalized the message forty years later.
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