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When death occurs before a wedding, do you proceed with the wedding immediately or postpone it? The shiur analyzes a fundamental dispute between the Bahag (always proceed with wedding) and the Rambam (רמב"ם) (distinguish between relatives). The Rosh challenges both positions with sharp questions about necessity and timing.
This shiur analyzes a complex sugya in Kesubos 3b-4a regarding the proper sequence of wedding and mourning obligations when a death occurs just before a scheduled wedding. The Gemara (גמרא) establishes that when the father of the groom dies and the wedding feast cannot be saved, the couple proceeds with the wedding followed by sheva brachos, and only then observes mourning. However, when other relatives die or when the food can be sold, the simple reading suggests postponing the wedding until after mourning. The shiur reveals a fundamental dispute among Rishonim about interpreting these cases. The Bahag, Rif, and others hold that in ALL cases where relatives die, the couple proceeds with the wedding immediately - they perform the chuppah and kiddushin first, then observe mourning, followed by sheva brachos. This creates a striking departure from the normal sequence where sheva brachos immediately follow the wedding.
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Kesubos 3b-4a
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