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Why do children naturally resent and even attack their parents? The shiur develops a fundamental yesod that parents traumatize children through the necessary process of weaning them from dependency to independence. Moshe's complaint about being stoned and cursed reflects this same dynamic — true leadership means teaching independence, not providing endless care.
Rabbi Zweig addresses Moshe Rabbeinu's extreme frustration in Parshas Beha'aloscha when he complains to Hashem (ה׳) about the people's constant complaints. Despite having seventy elders (ziknei Yisrael) to assist him, Moshe declares he cannot handle the burden alone. Rashi (רש"י) asks a fundamental question: if there were already seventy elders from Har Sinai, and they died in Tavera, how is appointing new seventy elders a solution when the previous ones didn't prevent the sins? The shiur develops a profound understanding of parent-child relationships as the key to understanding leadership. Every child experiences trauma through the natural process of growth: being expelled from the womb, weaned from nursing, and gradually pushed toward independence. This creates natural resentment and anger. A child will literally beat on their mother when being weaned. The only justification for this 'abandonment' is if the parent is genuinely preparing the child for independence by providing skills, confidence, and self-esteem.
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