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What does it mean for a husband to honor his wife 'yoser migufo' - more than himself? The shiur develops the principle that this requires a special level of kavod that demonstrates reverence, showing one's wife that she has enabled him to reach his potential. True marital honor means conveying that she has made him more than he could have been alone.
This shiur provides a comprehensive analysis of the Rambam (רמב"ם)'s ruling in Hilchos Ishus regarding a husband's obligation to honor his wife 'yoser migufo' (more than himself). Rabbi Zweig begins by examining two complementary halachos: the husband's duty to honor his wife (halacha (הלכה) 19) and the wife's corresponding obligation to honor her husband (halacha 20), noting that the Rambam places the husband's obligation first, indicating that he must take the initiative in creating a harmonious marriage. A significant portion of the shiur is devoted to clarifying the relationship between kavod (honor) and yirah (reverence/fear). Rabbi Zweig challenges the conventional understanding of a Gemara (גמרא) in Kiddushin that states a married woman is exempt from the mitzvah (מצוה) of 'imo v'oviv tiro' because she is not 'reshut b'yado.' He argues that this exemption refers specifically to the kavod aspect of yirah - a special type of honor that demonstrates reverence - rather than basic respect obligations like not calling parents by their names.
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Rambam Hilchos Ishus 15:19
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